I know, I know - I skipped Part 2! But I didn’t feel worse for wear for it. I was still able to follow everything and didn’t feel like there were pieces missing, so that was a good lesson to learn.

I feel like Re-framing is one of the most important foundations of coaching, so these classes are so important. What we spoke about today could be summed up in the question “What causes you to think that you’re right?” Immediately my mind went to “upbringing and experience”, but Angela mentioned culture as well. What else can explain all of these 18 year old entrepreneurs? And people getting married and having children a full decade  (or more!) after their parents before them? It was an interesting piece of the puzzle.

I also liked how Angela spoke about reframing a client’s perspective by having them relate from their heart and not from their head. She worked with a client who was very frustrated by a co-worker’s behavior. When Angela asked her “What do you think might be going on with this co-worker’s social life to make him act this way?” the client responded with a whole slew of depressing things that she knew were going on in his personal life. She couldn’t be sympathetic, and instead said “If it affects his work he should just take a sabbatical.” Angela then asked her client if she ever went through a personal situation that was painful and depressing. When the client responded affirmatively, Angela continued:

“Did you stop working?”

“No.”

“Were you good at your job?

“I’m not sure.”

“Why didn’t you stop working?”
“Because I wanted to throw myself into my work to distract me from my personal life.”

The client made that statement and immediately starting crying. THAT is what connected her to her co-worker, and it wasn’t until she “saw it from her heart” that she was able to reframe her perspective and relate to him.

This is honestly making me want to try and reframe every thought I ever had!

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I’m thankful today for the ability to take a step back and breathe.