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10p classes are tough for me. It’s hard to concentrate and I get tired about halfway through. I hate to say it, but the 7a classes might work better, if I wake up at 6:15 and am still able to head out to work at 8:15a. I can treat it like a gym day. But will I be more alert at 7a? Only one way to find out…..
Today we spoke a lot about having a client be accountable, and what our role is as a coach is order to ensure the client’s accountability. Merci’s take - which I agree with - is that coaches should just show up and bare witness. That’s enough to keep a client accountable. Pretty easy. So far we got:
* Show up
* Bare witness
Let’s add
* Don’t judge when there isn’t accountability
Easy rules to live by, in theory. But honestly, it’s a cut-and-dry topic. Part of the reason clients come to you is to be held accountable. But I liked when Merci told us about a quote from some dude that generally said, “Your client is going to get where they are going with or without you. The reason that they have you help them get on their way is that they want to get there in the most productive, efficient, enjoyable way possible.” People who seek out a coach are not the type of people to not hold themselves accountable. So if you have a client that isn’t able to follow through with a commitment they made, it might not be the right time for them to be coached.
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In keeping with this theme of accountability, I want to hold myself accountable for paying attention for the entire hour I’m in class. No searching the web! I hate admitting this (I’m judging myself!) but my mind wanders, and I go into Facebook, and I go on the ICA site to see what other classes I want to take and….I missed a major point. No more!
Client A had another breakthrough today, and I’m telling you - there’s nothing more thrilling. It literally sends chills up and down your spine, and you have to just breathe and say “Did you hear what you just said?” When your client responds with “It’s huge” it’s just - major. You know why you’re devoting your time and energy to being a life coach. Two breakthroughs in 6 sessions is a nice batting average
I do still need to focus on saying less and questioning more. That’s my new mantra, in coaching and in life.
Say less. Question more.
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