AC100: Enthusing (Homework)

Reflection
How would your life be different today, if people around you Enthused you instead of got angry at you for everything they wanted? I’m lucky in that I can’t think of too many examples where this had happened. But the few examples I can think of would have, if I had been enthused as opposed to yelled at, turned into strong relationships instead of ones that disintegrated. I don’t think that you can have a close bond with someone that doesn’t enthuse you, or gets angry at you for doing something positive. It ends up being their own low self-esteem and insecurities that get put on display at times like that.

Can you think of an example of when someone has tried one of the negative techniques to get you to change? How successful were they? I can think of a few teachers that beat me down, as that’s their method to get “real work” out of their students. It left me feeling untalented, without hope, a lost cause - all of those wonderful feelings. I finally came to realize that I wasn’t the problem - they were. I left those classes and those teachers behind and traded them in for classes where - no, I was not constantly told how “great” I was - my strengths were acknowledged and I was taught how to grow and gain more strengths.

What are some other areas you can think of where clients can benefit from the technique of Enthusing?I honestly feel like it can benefit anyone from anywhere. I feel that Enthusing is a big point of my coaching, as if I do nothing but point out the good that a client is doing and enthuse them to do more, I’ve done my job.

External Client: Session 4

I love my sessions with Client A! She’s come so, so far - I think that after week 6 I’m going to be worried what the heck there is left for her to accomplish! I think she’s feeling that way too, but hopefully we can dig below the surface a bit. I mean, how can someone get a hold of their finances, form meaningful relationships, and discover their life’s work all in 12 short weeks? Or 6?! Even if it looks that way on the surface I’m not convinced that there isn’t more there.

In terms of my own “performance” today, I definitely listened more and spoke less. I asked for permission before giving a suggestion. I still gave her multiple choice questions, but I also noticed myself recognizing these and trying (& sometimes succeeding!) to trail off instead of offering the answers themselves.

I’m trying to focus on the heartfelt Thank Yous I get from Client A. Even when I feel like I haven’t helped, I think of how she says “Thank you” - sincerely - and tell myself that my time and efforts are being well received. I’m really looking forward to see where my first client takes me (as well as herself)!

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Today I’m grateful for spring.