This was my first class at 10p EST, and it definitely wasn’t easy. Now that I’m old, I definitely started to feel it at 10:30p or so. And blogging at 11p is not fun! But I know that this is what I’ll do for the next few weeks, since a wise coach (aka Joanne) once told me that the Power Tools modules were the most helpful for her. She recommend that I take them now that I’m done with my Foundations classes, and that’s what I’m gonna do!
This was a bit tough in terms of getting the bridge line in clearly. I’m unsure if it’s because most of the students were in Asia and I never tend to hear them clearly, or what. Come to think of it, Linda (the teacher) was a bit fuzzy too. Kinda frustrating, especially when I’m in Brain-Is-About-To-Shut-Off Mode.
This class was, duh, the difference between commitment vs. trying. What struck me the most was that trying is basically committing with an out clause! For example, I’ve committed myself to taking 2 ICA classes a week but I’m trying to get a peer client by Jan 1st. If I was committed to getting a Peer Client by Jan 1st, then I would have one! But I find easy excuses (my show just ended, I’m going to celebrate my birthday, I have wedding stuff to do) to keep pushing the date back. Why? What’s stopping me? Now I think of it, I still think that it’s fear. I’m scared of having a Peer Client now. I don’t feel like I’m ready. I don’t think that I’ll have enough time. Which is why I’ve committed myself to trying to get a Peer Client!
Wow. That was a big relevation.
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Today I’m grateful for coming up with a positive action plan to help me not kill my mother, and I totally credit coaching with it. Instead of complaining about the situation, or throwing my hands up and surrendering to a strained relationship, I figured out how to approach her in order to keep everything in tact and (hopefully) not hurt her feelings. I’m really proud of myself for that.
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March 23, 2008 at 2:46 am
fahree
OK, I *know* that. I’ve known it for years. And yet, I keep “trying” and not being committed.
What’s a tool to commit to committing instead of trying to commit?
Between not doing it and “just do it”, what’s the path?
March 25, 2008 at 8:48 pm
mishmash29
That’s a great question, fahree. For me, that path is really looking inside of myself and saying “Why is this not happening?” I’ve been wanting to make time to exercise, and I know that the morning is the only “time” I have - yet the excuses kept coming:
“I’ll be too tired all day.”
“I won’t have as good of a workout because I’ll be too tired.”
“I have to wake up at 6:15?! Ohmygosh that’s early!”
“I’m not really gaining weight, so who cares?”
When I listed all of my excuses like that, I was embarrassed and almost angry. Is this lazy person *me*? Is this bowl of excuses coming from *me*? It got me into a “put up on shut up” mode. Either do it or don’t do it - but stop making ridiculous excuses!
Since I posted this on Feb 1, I committed myself to waking up at 6:20a 2-3 times/week during the weekday, and going to my yoga class (which I love!) on Saturdays. I feel just that word - “committed” - made a major impact on me. Once I used that word, it changed my attitude completely. What also helped is that, in order to get extra hot bods for our wedding, I got my pre-husband to wake up early with me! And I’ve only missed two of those commitments, honestly because I think the word “commitment” has disappeared when I speak about it.
I also think that part of the path is putting into action something to support your commitment. I might have tried to wake up early to exercise (and I have in the past), but it wasn’t until I went into my Palm Pilot and scheduled an exercise session from 6:40-7:10a that I was committed. Without that structure, there’s no commitment.